"I seriously cannot believe that I have to say this in 2013"

In the wake of Steubenville, The Belle Jar thinks about how to how to think and talk about the victims:

The “wives, sisters, daughters” line of argument comes up all the fucking time. …

It defines women by their relationships to other people, rather than as people themselves. It says that women are only important when they are married to, have given birth to, or have been fathered by other people. It says that women are only important because of who they belong to.